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3 Ways to Escape Being Stuck in Midlife

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Six months ago I never would have thought it possible that here, now in my early fifties I’d complete a 5k swim two minutes faster than I did in my very fit 20’s. And yet, a couple of weekends ago, that’s exactly what I did, in 2 hours 14 minutes.

Achieving this was the most thrilling event I’ve had for years!

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been swimming off and on for much of my adult life but I’m no athlete and I certainly don’t look like a svelte, young sportswoman.

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A couple of years ago, I felt miserable, middle aged, stuck, with no sense of direction or purpose and wondering what the heck I was going to do with the rest of my life.

It felt as if all the fun, exciting experiences were all behind me and I was bogged down with regrets for all those things I wanted to do, see and experience. Had I left it all too late? Hello slippery slope downhill to nowhere Ville!


Then something shifted, something ginormous.

I realised all these limitations were just part of one big story I was telling myself, not The Truth. And I was free to make up a new story, one not defined by my age but stuffed full of adventure, challenges and fun.

Because, you see, there is plenty of time to make the most of life. It’s not too late – far, far from it.

I stopped listening to all the excuses and reasons why not in my head and I started listening to the quiet whispers of inspiration and tugs in my heart. And I took action.

One tiny step led to another, and then another, and then everything began to change. Easily. Effortlessly. 

Looking back from my decision to say “yes” to the swim challenge and success, I realised there were 3 keys to escape feeling stuck in midlife.

1. Focus on NOW and start taking action

Start concentrating on what you can do to inject more joy/ success/ fun (whichever you choose) into your life. Don’t postpone your dreams and hopes and take one small step towards it now. Don’t delay (don’t even stop for a cup of tea to mull it over!). 

2. Don’t overthink it!

Ignore all the dodgy thoughts and reasons why a dream is impossible. Quieten the mind and start listening to the whispers of intuition that can nudge you in the right direction.

3. Stretch – think bigger and bolder

You have permission to think bigger and bolder than you’ve done before. By  midlife we’ve got resources and abilities from a lifetime but it’s still possible for us to grow and develop far more than we ever thought possible.

Let’s dream big, grow and live life to the full, together, NOW.

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If you’re fed up with feeling stuck and know you want to do more with your midlife (and beyond) even if at the moment you haven’t the foggiest what that might look like, get on a free Flourish call with me.

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Together we’ll explore what your version of a great midlife looks like and we’ll get you moving forward.

My guarantee: You will make progress during our conversation.

We'll also talk about whether 1:1 coaching with me is the right next step for you. For details of my current coaching package there is more info here.

I look forward to talking to you. 

Let’s dream big, grow and live life to the full, together, NOW.