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Why visualizing your goals isn't helping you (and what you can do about it)

In this blogette (a quick, short blog you can read whilst you snatch a quick cuppa), I'll show you why visualizing your goals is not much better than daydreaming about eating cheese on the moon. Thankfully, I've got a way of solving the problem - all will be revealed later.


It seems that all that advice from countless self help books, gurus and my granny* to visualize my goals in great detail haven't been helping me buy a summer house in the Maldives, and a luxury car after all.


Here comes the sciency bit

In one study, (and many other suggested the same result) students were asked to write down how often they visualized getting their dream job after graduation. Two years later, the students who had spent the most time daydreaming had made fewer job applications, got less job offers and smaller salaries than their peers.

But why can this be? (I hear you cry)

Researchers think that fantasizing about achieving our goals is counter-productive and can make us more likely to give up when we start hitting the inevitable setbacks. 


Thankfully my friends, there's something we can do about it (backed up with more research) and this is what we need to do instead


Happy goal setting and visualizing

Find somewhere comfortable for a little lie down and visualizing of our yummy goals. 

1. Think of a goal you want to achieve and spend a couple minutes thinking of the two top benefits to your life of achieving this wonderous goal.

2., Next think of the two top barriers or problems you might need to overcome to get to this goal.

3. Go back to thinking of your goal and the tip top benefit. Enjoy. Then spend a few moments thinking of the top barrier and what you might do to overcome this problem.

4.Repeat the same procedure (as in point 3) for the second benefit and problem.

So now by really living your goal in your mind, you've got heaps of motivation. And because you're warned yourself to accept that it might not be plain sailing you're starting to find a few strategies to deal with problems that lie ahead, that it's all part of the process of achieving your goals.

*My granny often came up with great advice. My other fav of hers was "You've got to get with it." My granny was a real party goer and always felt you had to throw yourself into things

The experiment referred to in this blogette carried out by Gabriele Oettingen and Thomas Wadden University of Pennsylvania

The secret to overcoming setbacks in your biz

In this blogette (a quick, short blog you can read whilst you snatch a quick cuppa), I'll show you how the way you think about setbacks is the most important secret you can learn to help you build success in your biz.

The growth or fixed mindset

If you've got a growth mindset you believe that you are capable of learning and growing and if you don't succeed at first, you simply need to do something else. You believe entrepreneurs are made and that if you learn and keep at it, you'll get there

If you've got what is called a fixed mindset you believe you either have the ability to succeed or you don't. You believe that entrepreneurs are born and you'e not convinced you were one of them.

The idea of the growth mindset was developed by psychologist Carol Dweck and popularized in her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

A mindset is the set of beliefs and assumptions that we develop over time about ourselves and our abilities such as I'm a great public speaker or I'm disorganised. They're important because they're the filters through which we see reality. Warning! They're not always the truth!



When disaster, setbacks or just every day "it must be a wet Monday" kinds of things happen in your biz, there are two ways you can react based on your mindset.

Big Hint:

How you react determines whether your work will go on to have shed loads of fans, rave reviews and you'll have that soft inner glow of success contentment. Or you'll slink back to from where you came and we'll never hear of you again.


The fixed mindset 


The growth mindset 

We're all capable of far more growth and learning than we ever know.

It's time for action

Start paying attention to your thoughts when you next have a problem in your biz. If you're showing a growth mindset HURRAH, you've already discovered the most important secret to overcoming any setback you come across and I'll see you at the award ceremony. Keep going with it.

If you're using a fixed mindset, first of all don't panic, hit yourself with big sticks or hide under the duvet. The good news is that any mindset can be changed and the first step is to be aware you've got it in the first place.

The second step is to start questioning your fixed mindset assumptions. Find ways in your life where you have overcome obstacles and learnt how to succeed. Gather evidence, write it all down and look at your list frequently.